My name is Heather Jones, and I’m a ‘dating expert’ only because I’ve taken a ride on the rollercoaster of life just like you have! Along the way I‘ve learned a few “key” things I think will help anyone because they’ve certainly helped me, improved my life, and improved the lives of many, many friends! Of course learning lessons wasn’t always easy - in fact….I distinctly remember throwing my keys at one guy, long story….tell ya a little later, but it actually set the wheels in motion for me to start this website and blog!
This is not a site to help you find Mr. Right. This is a site to help you find you! All too often we lose ourselves in men and forget about who we are, or what we really want. Well if that sounds familiar don’t despair! I know exactly how to get you back on track….and yes it involves dating men….but this time when you’re out there you won’t be husband hunting in camouflage assault gear….you’ll be casually dating, getting to know yourself, and having a blast!
I know what you’re thinking…..casually dating and ‘having a blast’ are not two phrases I should put together. Well I’m going to retrain the way you think because most of us…whether we choose to or not, will venture into casually dating at some point in our lives so why not make the best of it!
This is dating boot camp girls! And I won’t be taking it easy on you! I’ll be pointing out the many, many mistakes we make while dating so everyone can quickly learn and move on. Because let’s face it…..we’ve all quickly taken the leap from 1st date to ‘happily ever after’ more than once!
I’ll share my stories if you will….and together we’ll find the keys to fun and fulfilling dating experiences!
I don’t know about you, but growing up I was taught dating was just a means to an end—with the end being marriage. We were supposed to put ourselves out there and hope for the best, waiting for the day we‘d meet “the one” and our lives would suddenly fall into place. Well, my experience hasn’t been quite like that, and I’m guessing yours hasn’t, either.
Year after year, I kept dating with marriage in mind, and year after year kept running into the same brick walls. About seven years ago—after yet another failed attempt at a relationship—I decided to start documenting my dating experiences. After some time, I noticed there was one common brick in every single wall: me.
I finally admitted it was time to look within to see what I was doing wrong. It didn’t take long for some patterns to emerge—the same mistakes being made over and over and over again. For example, I’d meet a guy and immediately think he was the one and throw my heart into the relationship, only to have it broken a few months later. Or, I’d try to force the relationship to work even when I knew the guy wasn’t the one, and ultimately end up getting hurt or hurting him. Or, at my worst times, I’d quickly move from one guy to another thinking one would eventually be the one. I was dating like a wind-up doll in a 4x4 brick cell.
So where am I now? I’m happily single. I have amazing friends, a lot of fun, and no regrets! I can’t say for sure I’ll casual date forever, but why should I settle just to say I’m settled down?
As I mentioned earlier, my transition didn’t happen overnight, and I cried myself to sleep many nights along the way, still do from time to time. In my book The Double Standard in Dating, you’ll find tons of awesome tips to help make your transition easier. In the meantime click over to the ‘Dating Stories’ page of the website to read my famous Throwing Keys story!